Kink Doctor

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    The Kink Doctor Pilot (46:43)

    Kink Doctor is a talk show web series that gives an intimate look into the world of kink/BDSM. Fun and entertaining, educational but not overly didactic, Kink Doctor normalizes and universalizes kink, and clarifies common misconceptions of BDSM. Each episode focuses on a kink-identified person with a story to tell about the impact kink has made on their life. In the pilot episode, KD and Bastard Keith have a conversation with Domina Dia Dynasty about transformational domination, coming out of the kink closet, erotic humiliation, good vs bad shame, among many other kinky things.

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    Kink Doctor S01E01 Pilot Trailer (3:05)

    KD and Bastard Keith have a conversation with Domina Dia Dynasty about transformational domination, coming out of the kink closet, erotic humiliation, good vs bad shame, and many, many other kinky things. The full episode is now available!

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    KD’s Grandma’s Take on the Pilot (2:57)

    KD's 93-year-old grandma's take on the Kink Doctor pilot.

Meet KD

Meet Kink Doctor

Kink Doctor (KD) is also known as Dulcinea Pitagora, a queer/poly/kink-identified, female-bodied, gender fluid/non-binary, licensed psychotherapist and sex therapist practicing in New York City. KD’s practice focuses on providing affirmative, sex positive therapy to those with atypical sexual and gender expressions and identifications as well as relationship structures. KD has also been a member of and mentor in the NYC kink scene for over a decade, and formerly worked as a professional dominatrix.

KD holds a Master of Arts (MA) in Psychology from the New School for Social Research, a Master of Social Work (MSW) from New York University, a Master of Education (MEd) from Widener University, and is an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST) and a doctoral candidate at Widener University’s clinical sexology PhD program. KD is an adjunct professor of sexual health at New York University. KD is often quoted in the press as an expert in BDSM and sexuality (see below); has published articles in peer-reviewed journals (see below); and has presented at conferences on the topics of alternative sexuality and gender diversity. Pitagora conducts research, lectures, and seminars pertaining to these communities; is the founder of ManhattanAlternative.com, an alternative lifestyle affirmative provider listing; and is a co-organizer of the AltSex NYC Conference and Sexuality Speaker Series.

Follow KD on Social Media:
Facebook.com/KinkDoctor
Twitter.com/KinkDoctor
Instagram.com/KinkDoctor

APPEARANCES


KD talks to EJ Johnson about gender identity on the E! reality TV show, EJNYC.

 

PRESS

KD talks about the 3 C’s—Communication, Creativity, and Consent—in Marriage.com‘s “Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?”:
https://www.marriage.com/advice/physical-intimacy/experts-reveal-how-to-deal-with-incompatible-sex-drives/

KD’s two cents on the Cruz porn scandal are quoted in Kate Feldman’s “Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn” for the New York Daily News: http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/ted-cruz-twitter-mainstream-appeal-incest-porn-article-1.3494416

Break Through Radio Today breaking news: Female tops exist! Taia Hanlin’s”What Americans Are Doing in Bed May Surprise You” includes KD’s take on what’s good and bad about sexuality research: http://www.btrtoday.com/read/featured/what-americans-are-doing-in-bed-may-surprise-you/

KD’s perspective on the benefits of spanking in Gigi Engle’s “7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy” for Marie Clairehttp://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/a28396/spanking-therapy/

KD’s response to “Ask a Sexologist: Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology, or societal oppression?” in Slutever’s Sex + Love Advice column: http://slutever.com/are-women-less-promiscuous-than-men-biology-science/

KD’s interview with Dr. Michael Aaron, the author of Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations, on what inspired the creation of Kink Doctorhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/standard-deviations/201706/the-doctor-is-in-new-web-series-explores-the-world-kink

KD’s conversation with Ignite Intimacy podcast’s Ms. LAH about how KD came to be an alternative sexuality affirmative therapist, and creating shame-free spaces for kink, poly, trans, and LGBQ-identified people: http://lauraaiisha.com/2017/34-sexuality-psychology-in-nyc-with-dulcinea-pitagora

KD’s perspective on monogamy versus non-monogamy in Ian Kerner’s “Rethinking Monogamy Today” for CNN: http://www.cnn.com/2017/04/12/health/monogamy-sex-kerner/index.html

KD’s research team debunks misconceptions about BDSM, and presents findings in“Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM” for Psychology Today’s Standard Deviationshttps://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/standard-deviations/201702/beyond-50-shades-darker-debunking-popular-myths-about-bdsm

KD comments on parenting while kinky in Sophie Saint Thomas’s “How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids” for VICE Magazinehttp://www.vice.com/read/how-to-still-be-kinky-once-you-have-kids?utm_source=vicefbus

KD’s conversation with Irish RTÉ2fm Radio’s Chris and Ciara on equal opportunity fluid bonding and other ways that kink can be bonding: https://soundcloud.com/rte2fm/chris-and-ciara-sex-therapist-dulcinea-pitagora-on-fetishes

Break Through Radio’s Taia Hanlin quotes KD’s take on the subject of “daddy issues”: http://www.btrtoday.com/read/themeweek/self/926-article/

KD’s perspective on tattooing in a kinky context is quoted in Sophie Saint Thomas’ VICE Magazine article, “Meet the Kinky Couples Who Get Turned on by Tattooing Each Other”: http://www.vice.com/read/the-kink-of-ink-when-fetish-friendly-couples-incorporate-tattooing-in-their-sex-lives

KD’s two cents about how homeless people are all too often desexualized in Taia Hanlin’s Break Through Radio article, “Karma Week: Yes, Homeless People Have Sex Too”: http://www.btrtoday.com/read/themeweek/karma/monday-karma-week/

KD’s perspective on adult breastfeeding (ABF) is quoted in Kellylouise Delaney’s Huffington Post article, “Adult Breastfeeding is More Common than You Think”:  http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/adult-breastfeeding-is-more-common-than-you-think_us_57894b6de4b0b107a240f8e3

The therapy session that EJ Johnson had with KD on his reality TV show EJNYC was called a must-see moment on E! News: http://www.eonline.com/shows/ejnyc/news/776448/ejnyc-recap-ej-johnson-explores-his-gender-identity-a-lingerie-slumber-party-and-more-must-see-moments

E! News reports on KD’s conversation with EJ Johnson about his feelings surrounding his gender identity: http://www.eonline.com/shows/ejnyc/news/776344/ej-johnson-admits-he-thought-about-transitioning-after-caitlyn-jenner-came-out

KD has a conversation with Jack Irona, the host of The Swinger Lifestyle radio show, about the intersection of kink and swinging, whether sexual addiction is a real thing, and the intellectual side of kink:
http://www.adultsocials.com/blog/?p=594

KD’s talk on the intersection of kink and poly at the 1st annual AltSex NYC Conference is referenced in Debra Soh’s New York Magazine article, “3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex”: http://nymag.com/scienceofus/2016/04/3-insights-about-kinky-and-nonmonogamous-sex.html

GO Magazine proclaims, “The Kink Doctor Is In”: http://www.dulcineapitagora.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/GOmag_Travel_Issue_2015_p38-39-1.jpg

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Guest Blog Post, “Disclosure and Outness as a Therapist with Intersecting Atypical Identifications”: https://ncsfreedom.org/press/blog/item/guest-blog-disclosure-and-outness-as-a-therapist-with-intersecting-atypical-identifications.html 

Brad Sagarin references the mechanisms that reinforce consent as outlined in KD’s paper on consent versus coercion in his article for The Guardian, “Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you”: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2015/feb/09/bdsm-good-for-you-fifty-shades-of-grey-relationship

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom Guest Blog Post, “The BDSM Power Exchange: Subversion, Transcendence, Sexual (R)evolution”: https://ncsfreedom.org/press/blog/item/guest-blog-the-bdsm-power-exchange-subversion-transcendence-sexual-revolution.html

 

PEER-REVIEWED
ACADEMIC PUBLICATIONS

Pitagora, D. (2017). No Pain, No Gain? Therapeutic and Relational Benefits of Subspace in BDSM ContextsJournal of Positive Sexuality, 3(3), 44-54.

Pitagora, D. (2016). The Kink-Poly Confluence: Relationship Intersectionality in Marginalized CommunitiesSexual and Relationship Therapy, 31(3), 391-405. 

Pitagora, D. (2015). Intimate Partner Violence in Sadomasochistic RelationshipsSexual and Relationship Therapy, 31(1), 95-108. 

Paul, L., Rubin, L., Pitagora, D., Tworecke, A., Brown, B. (2014). Support needs and resources of sexual minority women with breast cancerPsycho-Oncology, 23(5), 578-584.

Joseph, J.A., Pitagora, D., Tworecke, A., & Roberts, K.E. (2013). Peering into gaps in the DSM: Student perspectives on gender and informing education. The Society for International Education Journal: Engaging with Difference, Gender and Sexuality in Education, 7(1), 104-127.

Pitagora, D. (2013). Consent vs. coercion: BDSM interactions highlight a fine but immutable lineNew School Psychology Bulletin, 10(1), 27-36.