Frequently Asked Questions
To schedule an appointment, please email me directly at info@KinkDoctor.com, or fill out the contact form.
We can meet via Zoom or Skype, and I will make every effort to protect your privacy and confidentiality. If you plan to visit New York City, we may be able to schedule an in-person appointment in my office near Lower Manhattan.
This depends on the regulations where you are located. Outside of the United States, some countries allow international therapists to work with their residents, whereas other countries don’t. Before we start, I will research your location to make sure that I’m working within any regulations that exist. Within the United States I can currently do ongoing therapy with people located in New York, Washington DC, and Colorado where I am licensed (and I will soon be expanding to other states); some states allow short-term therapy, which I will research before we begin. I am also happy to help with referrals if we can’t work together. I can offer educational consultations to anyone anywhere, however.
Please enquire, and make no mistake—my fees do run high! This is not only because my expertise and credentials call for higher fees, but I also ask that those who can afford to pay a premium for my expertise to do so, in order to subsidize treatment for those who are struggling financially and would benefit from working with a therapist of my specialisations and qualifications.
I accept international payments via ACH bank transfer, Wise, and PayPal. Within the United States, I also accept credit cards, Venmo, Zelle, and CashApp.
Appointments can be cancelled or rescheduled up to 48 hours in advance. Non-emergency cancellations within 48 hours require payment of the full fee.
Most find regularly scheduled weekly appointments to be helpful. More or less frequent appointments can also be arranged, though it’s usually best to attend a minimum of one session per week for the first month or so to get started. One-time as needed appointments are also sometimes available.
This depends entirely on the individual’s needs and preference. For some people, short-term therapy from three to six months is adequate to address a less complicated problem or issue, while others find long-term therapy that lasts for a year or more to be most effective. Some people enjoy the consistent and neutral support of a therapist to be helpful on an ongoing basis, even when they have no specific problem to work on or issue to discuss.· This depends entirely on the individual’s needs and preference. For some, short-term therapy from three to six months is adequate to address a less complicated problem or issue, while others find long-term therapy that lasts for a year or more to be most effective. Some people enjoy the consistent and neutral support of a therapist to be helpful on an ongoing basis, even when they have no specific problem to work on or issue to discuss.
Sex therapy is the same as psychotherapy in that thoughts, feelings, and behaviours are explored and processed through talking. There are no physical or sexual interactions or demonstrations. Certified sex therapists are required to have the same foundational psychotherapy training as other therapists, as well as additional training related to relationships, sexual and gender identities, and sexual functioning.
Yes, I suggest taking a look at my team page for the therapists I supervise, and Manhattan Alternative, a network of New York-based therapists who are sex-positive, affirmative, and have expertise related to issues that kink, poly, consensually non-monogamous, trans, gender non-conforming, and/or LGBQ-identified individuals face. Other places with international reach are QueerHealers and NCSF’s Kink Aware Professionals (KAP) sex-positive support for kink and nonmonogamy.
Yes I do—click here for a list of books and podcasts I’ve compiled, and click here for book lists I created at Bookshop.org.