Quotes & Interviews

^{5 Aug 2024}

PopSugar – It’s a “Brat Summer,” but What Does That Mean in the Kink World?

For those who identify as submissive, ‘brat’ can be a persona that emerges when in a submissive headspace…

^{26 Jun 2024}

COSMOPOLITAN – What Is a Queerplatonic Relationship?

by Sophie Saint Thomas – “Queerplatonic relationships have always existed. As with most relationship labels…

^{8 Oct 2021}

Mic – Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan about the gendering of fitness for Mic Magazine.

^{18 Apr 2024}

Mary & George’ Lets Us Reimagine All History as Queer History

I was quoted in the Huffington post on their piece about how the TV show Mary & George hitoricizes the sexually fluid queer community

^{5 Jan 2024}

The VICE Guide to Kink

NYC-based psychotherapist, sex therapist, and BDSM expert Dulcinea Pitagora explains, kink can be generally defined as “any eroticized interaction that falls outside the statistical norm of heteronormative sex”.

^{24 Oct 2023}

Locker Room Talk & Shots podcast with Anette Benedetti. Guest, Dr. Pitagora (AKA the Kink Doctor)

A Guide to the Cuckolding Fetish

A Guide to Cuckolding With The Kink Doctor!

This Locker Room Talk & Shots podcast features a conversation about the cuckhold fetish with renowned sex therapist and BDSM expert Dr. Dulcinea Alex Pitagora (AKA the Kink Doctor).

^{19 Oct 2023}

How to Have a Good Time at a Sex Party, According to People Who Go to a Lot of Them

Dr. Dulcinea Alex Pitagora answers why it’s a little more than showing up and getting down.

^{1 Jul 2023}

Today – I’m gay and I eat at Chick-fil-A. Should I feel ashamed?

I was quoted extensively in Joseph Lamour’s article for Today on the guilt and shame of being a gay Chick-fil-A customer.

^{9 Jun 2023}

Cashmere Magazine – Can You Develop A Kink?

I spoke with Jamie Valentino for Cashmere Magazine about how kinks and fetishes develop and can be incorporated into relationships.

^{27 Apr 2023}

Women’s Health – What Does ‘Queer’ Mean?

I was interviewed by Casey Clark for their Women’s Health article about what it means to identify as queer.

^{4 Apr 2023}

Mina AF – Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

I was interviewed by Mina Starsiak Hawk (star of Two Chicks and a Hammer) about sex, sex work, anal sex, how to talk about sex, oh and also sex, for her podcast Mina AF.

^{27 Mar 2023}

Hustler Magazine – [Kink:] Don’t Knock It Till You Try It

I spoke with Mike Adams about opening up to exploring kink for his Hustler Magazine article.

^{12 Mar 2023}

Women’s Health – What Does It Mean To Be Greyromantic?

My insights were included in Ashley Oken’s article for Women’s Health about the what it means to identify as greyromantic.

^{19 Feb 2023}

CNN Health – Can A Monogamous Couple Happily Become Nonmonogamous?

I was quoted alongside other sexuality experts by Ian Kerner in his piece for CNN Health on the transition from monogamy to nonmonogamy.

^{16 Jan 2023}

Why People Have Sexual Fantasies About Things They Don’t Want To Do in Real Life

I was interviewed for this piece on unrealistic sexual fantasies by Ella Dorval Hall for Well+Good.

^{20 Dec 2022}

Insider – This is [Sage Agee’s] first holiday out as polyamorous.

Sage Agee interviewed me on their Insider piece about navigating multiple polyamorous relationships.

^{13 Dec 2022}

Cosmopolitan: How Not to Be the Most Awkward Person at a Sex Party

Kayla Kibbe quoted me in her article for Cosmopolitan on how to avoid awkwardness at sex parties.

^{6 Sept 2022}

Armie Hammer Allegations an Example of What Distinguishes BDSM from Sexual Violence

I was asked to give an expert opinion on this article by Jenna Ryu about the difference between BDSM and sexual abuse for USA Today.

^{16 Aug 2022}

Mic – How Pleasure became Political

Always a pleasure to speak with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic Magazine about the importance of pleasure, particularly during hard times.

^{28 Jul 2022}

Self – 6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship

I had a great time talking to Marie Southard Ospina about non-monogamy for her SELF article, “6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship.

^{10 Jun 2022}

BuzzFeed – 16 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Shy, Embarrassed, Or Worried To Ask About

Here’s round two of my quotes included alongside other sexuality experts in Fabiana Buontempo’s follow up article for BuzzFeed with answers to readers’ questions about some of my favorite topics

^{19 Apr 2022}

BuzzFeed – 15 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Embarrassed To Ask About

I was quoted alongside other sexuality experts in Fabiana Buontempo’s article for BuzzFeed with answers to readers’ questions about some of my favorite topics, including squirting, non-monogamy, and anal!

^{21 Feb 2022}

Self – 14 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore, According to Therapists

I was one of the relationship experts quoted by Natanya Biskar in this SELF article about how to spot and what to do about red flags in relationships.

^{13 Dec 2021}

Hustler Magazine – Sex Requests: The Weird, the Nasty… the Awesome!

I was interviewed by Michael Adams for Hustler Magazine about expressing “bizarre” desires with partners.

^{7 Dec 2021}

Mashable – How to Travel with Sex Toys

I highly recommend traveling with sex toys in general, and gave some tips to Mark Hay for his Mashable article on the topic.

^{30 Nov 2021}

Men’s Health – 20 Questions With Open Relationships Sex Therapist Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

I scratched the surface on ethical non-monogamy by answering Sophie Saint Thomas’s 20 questions on the topic for Men’s Health.

^{25 Nov 2021}

Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO – The World of BDSM

I contributed to a verrrry long conversation about BDSM on Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO

^{23 Nov 2021}

SheKnows – Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy

I was featured in Gina Escandon’s article highlighting the essentials of ethical non-monogamy for SheKnows.

^{19 Oct 2021}

Men’s Health – What You Do After Sex Will Help You Have Way More of It

I gave some insight into aftercare for Sophie Saint Thomas’s Men’s Health piece.

^{8 Oct 2021}

Mic – Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan about the gendering of fitness for Mic Magazine.

^{12 Sept 2021}

O.School – Cuckolding: What It Is And Why Some People Love It

I was interviewed by Ella Dorval Hall on the topic of cuckolding for O.School.

^{3 Jun 2021}

Mic – How Will Our Pandemic Trauma Translate into Emotional Growth?

I was quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic Magazine piece on post-traumatic growth.

^{23 Apr 2021}

Practicing Polyamory Podcast – How to Establish Your Identity

I talked to James Sias for his video podcast Practicing Polyamory about emerging identities, and when poly is an identity and when it’s not.

^{22 Apr 2021}

New York Post – Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s Finger-Sucking, Explained

I was asked to give my hot take on why a certain couple might get a sexual charge out of public finger sucking in Marisa Dellatto’s piece for the New York Post.

^{18 Apr 2021}

Mic – Both& Is Filling the Fashion Void with Its Gender Affirming Clothes

I got a mention in Tracey Anne Duncan’s piece for Mic Magazine about the importance of gender affirming clothing choices.

^{26 Mar 2021}

Mic – TikTok Is Making Consent Sexy Again

I’m quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s piece for Mic Magazine about people using TikTok to send sex positive messages about consent.

^{21 Mar 2021}

Mic – Re-entry Anxiety is Real. Here’s How to Cope

I offered my two cents for Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic Magazine piece on premature post-COVID re-entry anxiety.

^{25 Feb 2021}

Daily Beast – The New COVID Truther Freakout Is the Most Absurd Yet

Mark Hay quotes my take on the hysteria around anal swabbing to detect COVID for his piece in the Daily Beast.

^{24 Feb 2021}

Mic – More Young People Identify as LGBTQ+ Than Ever Before

Tracey Anne Duncan quoted me in her Mic Magazine piece about the increase in the disclosure of queerness among young people.

^{22 Feb 2021}

GQ – The A-to-Z Guide to Open Relationship Terminology

My two cents on open relationship terminology was included in this GQ piece by Sophie Saint Thomas.

^{16 Feb 2021}

Big Think – Are There Therapeutic and Relational Benefits to Being Submissive?

My research on the therapeutic benefits of subspace in BDSM interactions was referenced in Jamee Bell’s article on the topic for Big Think.

^{10 Feb 2021}

Mic – On Unlearning Gender Norms: Will I Ever Stop Acting Like a Girl?

I collaborated with Tracey Anne Duncan for her Mic Magazine piece about leaning into self-compassion and self-love as an antidote to internalized misogyny.

^{3 Feb 2021}

What Is Small Penis Humiliation, And Can It Help Men Struggling With Size Insecurity?

Very pleased to be quoted alongside the illustrious Miss Couple in this article on the ins and outs of small penis humiliation by Kayla Kibbe for InsideHook.

^{2 Feb 2021}

CNN Health – What’s Your Gender? I Prefer Not to Say

Myself and my esteemed colleague Jesse Kahn were quoted in Allison Hope’s piece for CNN Health on thinking and speaking more expansively and inclusively about gender.

^{19 Jan 2021}

BuzzFeed – Six Trans People Talk About Their Pandemic Bodies

I was quoted about the impact the pandemic has had on gender presentation this BuzzFeed piece by Fancy Feast.

^{10 Jan 2021}

Mic – How to Role-play without Feeling Super Awkward

I gave Joseph Lamour way more than two cents about how to set oneself up for success in exploring new role-plays for this Mic Magazine piece.

^{27 Dec 2020}

Bridgerton’ Review: Is It Wrong To Never Fantasize About Your Partner While Masturbating?

This piece by Molly Longman for Refinery29 has my hot take on masturbating while thinking about partners.

^{21 Dec 2020}

Refinery29 – Clit Pumps Are Sexy, Useful, & Very Underrated

My musings on the benefits of clit pumping were quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman.

^{16 Dec 2020}

Double Blind – Why We All Need to Be Spanked and Trip Right Now

I spoke with Sophie Saint Thomas about what kink and psychedelics do and don’t have in common in this piece for Double Blind.

^{25 Nov 2020}

What ‘Happiest Season’ Gets Right & Wrong About Dating Someone Who Isn’t Out

I was quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman about how the movie “Happiest Season” portrays dating someone who’s closeted.

^{24 Nov 2020}

Mic – How My Weight Affirms My Gender Identity

I was quoted in this a beautiful piece of disclosure by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about how it can be empowering to adjust body size as a form of gender presentation body modification.

^{11 Nov 2020}

A Shocking Number of Trans Americans are Forced to Get Hormones on the “Grey Market”

Tracey Anne Duncan reported on the lack of access many trans people have to hormones for Mic, and I put in my two cents plus a little extra on the psychological affects of this phenomenon.

^{28 Sept 2020}

Mic – I Grew Up Associating Queer Sex with Shame, Here’s How I’m Unlearning It

I spoke with Joseph Lamour for his Mic article on where sexual shame comes from and how to exorcise it.

^{5 Jun 2024}

COSMOPOLITAN – Slow Sex Is The Best Sex

“As with anything in life, when we move quickly through experiences, we run the risk of glossing over or missing something,” says Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

^{31 Jul 2020}

Refinery29 – The Icy Tricks That Can Transform Summer Sex

I was quoted in this Refinery29 piece by Molly Longman on the joys of summertime sensation play.

^{30 Jul 2020}

The Erotic Philosopher Podcast – How to Get Better at Talking about Pleasure

I was honored to be sexologist Cyndi Darnell’s inaugural guest on her podcast, The Erotic Philosopher.

^{17 Jul 2020}

Mic – Coronavirus and Denial: Why Some People Just Can’t Face Reality

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about the intersection of coronivirus and denial as a coping mechanism for the fear of death.

^{4 Jul 2020}

Mic – How Quarantine Liberated Me from the Gender Binary

A liberation story in which Tracey Anne Duncan quoted the hell out of me for Mic.

^{26 Jun 2020}

VICE – Apocalypse Porn Shows Why People Are Horny for the End of the World

I was interviewed by Samantha Cole for her Vice piece about coping with fluctuations in desire during the pandemic.

^{24 Jun 2020}

What Happens to Your Body When You Don’t Have Sex for a Long Time

Canela López included me in an expert roundup for Insider about how quarantining during the pandemic will affect sexuality.

^{20 Mar 2020}

How to Deal With Quarantining Away From Your Partner During Coronavirus

I spoke about how to deal with romance during a pandemic with Michelle Kim for them.

^{16 Mar 2020}

Mic – Why Social Distancing Is Making Me Horny

I spoke with Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic about why social distancing during early stages of COVID-19 is making people horny.

^{11 Feb 2020}

Miami New Times – Miami’s Fetish Community Falls Head Over Heels for Feet

Alexi Cardona quoted me in an article on foot fetishists for Miami New Times.

^{21 Dec 2019}

Mic – How to Survive the Holidays When Your Family Doesn’t Know You’re Gay

A very timely and useful piece on things LGBTQ people can do before and after spending holiday time with family they’re not out to—by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic with quotes by yours truly.

^{11 Dec 2019}

Mic – How to Deal with Difficult Relatives: A Therapist’s Guide

I was quoted along with other therapists on how to deal with difficult relatives over the holidays in this piece by Tracey Anne Duncan for Mic.

^{29 Nov 2019}

Allure – How to Make (and Maintain) Healthy Sexual Boundaries

Once again I find myself in excellent company quoted alongside Dr. Meg-John Barker and Manhattan Alternative colleague Deesha Narichania in Erin Taylor’s article for on sexual boundaries.

^{22 Nov 2019}

Self – The Sex Worker Self-Care Kit

I was thrilled to speak with Anna Borges for SELF about self-care tips for sex workers.

^{21 Nov 2019}

Mic – How Sex Toys Finally Evolved Beyond the Big Fake Penis

It’s so much fun talking to Tracey Anne Duncan about sex toys—here’s the result of our latest conversation about the evolution of sex toys as reported in Mic.

^{4 Nov 2019}

Mic – Can Temporarily Abstaining From Sex Actually Help You Focus?

In Tracey Anne Duncan’s Mic article on whether or not temporarily abstaining from sex can help you focus I get the pleasure of being quoted alongside Justin Lehmiller PLUS Tracey Anne kept my snarky comment about chastity play from getting edited out!

^{13 Sept 2019}

Mic – Having Good Sex after Trauma Means Being Vocal about Your Triggers

I really love this article that Tracey Anne Duncan wrote (which happens to quote me) for Mic about having good sex after trauma.

^{14 Aug 2019}

Mic – Why Do We Sext? It’s about More Than Just Lust, Says New Research

My two cents were included in Tracey Anne Duncan’s article for Mic about new research findings about sexting.

^{23 Jul 2019}

Mic – The future of sex toys is non-binary and this vibrator is just the start

I was quoted in Tracey Anne Duncan’s article for Mic about non-binary sex toys and sexuality.

^{15 Jul 2019}

Mic – How to explore your sexuality and minimize the emotional fallout for others

Tracey Anne Duncan and I talked about the ins and outs of ethical sexual exploration in her article for Mic.

^{11 Jul 2019}

Refinery29 – How To Store Sex Toys In Even The Tiniest Apartment

I spoke with Erika W. Smith about the importance of properly storing sex toys for her piece in Refinery29.

^{3 Jul 2019}

Post-Pride Depression Is So Real for LGBTQ+ People Who Have to Go Back to Real Life

Tracey Anne Duncan and I talked about the reality of post-Pride drop and where it comes from in her article for Mic.

^{1 Jul 2019}

Mic – How to Talk About Kink With A New Partner, Because It Doesn’t Have To Be Awkward

Take home message from my conversation with Tracey Anne Duncan for her Mic article: Be redundant and obvious when it comes to consent. We also talk about disclosing kinkiness + erotic asphyxiation & etc, check it out!

^{19 Jun 2019}

What Is BDSM? Want to Try Bondage? Here’s What Curious Couples Need to Know

My former colleague Justine Cross and I spoke with Carrie Weisman for her FatherlyHQ article on BDSM for beginners.

^{25 May 2019}

Marriage.com – Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life—Expert Roundup

My advice on “Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life” is included in Marriage.com‘s “Best Sex Advice for a Healthy Sex Life—Expert Roundup”

^{24 May 2019}

Sex with Timaree Podcast – Dr. Dulcinea Pitagora Returns!

I spoke with Dr. Timaree Schmidt on Sex with Timaree (Podcast Edition) about my research on straight men who enjoy receiving anal sex, how annoying IRBs can be, among many other things.

^{29 Apr 2019}

The Long, Complicated History of Men Trying to Suck Their Own Dicks

I was asked to contribute my thoughts for this piece on the potential plights and pleasures of auto-fellatio by Mark Hay for Men’s Health.

^{22 Mar 2019}

CNN – Who Is Having More Sex over Age 50, Research Explores

I gave my interpretation of a study’s statistics on who’s having the most sex over age 50 and how in Ian Kerner’s article for CNN.

^{15 Feb 2019}

BestLife – 40 Erotic Role Play Ideas That’ll Totally Spice Up Your Sex Life

I collaborated with Grant Stoddard on this article for BestLife in which we talk about SO MANY roleplays and how they can add some spice to your sex life.

^{12 Feb 2019}

Well+Good: On Taking a Dating Sabbatical

I was interviewed for this great article on taking dating sabbaticals by Aly Semigran for Well+Good:

^{11 Feb 2019}

Nylon: Spanking Sex Guide

I was quoted in this very cute and informative article on spanking by Carolyn Yates for Nylon.

^{1 Feb 2019}

Sex Out Loud Radio

I have a conversation with Tristan Taormino, the host of Sex Out Loud radio show, about being out as kinky as a therapist, the commonalities between sex work and psychotherapy, and the AltSex NYC Conference, among many other things in this hour long

^{29 Jan 2019}

Fatherly HQ – How Did “Daddy” Became So Sexual?

I was quoted in this fun article by Carrie Weisman for FatherlyHQ on the use of the term “Daddy” during sex.

^{14 Dec 2018}

Men’s Health – How Deep Throating Exploded Into America’s Bedrooms

I was was asked to describe the kinky edge play aspects of deep throating in Carrie Weisman’s article for Men’s Health.

^{28 Nov 2018}

These Sex Games Could Help You Explore Desires You Didn’t Even Know You Had

I had a conversation with Grant Stoddard for his Vice piece about the best and worst sex games.

^{7 Nov 2018}

Refinery29 – “The Dirty Details Of Anal Sex”

Always happy to be cited alongside Charlie Glickman in an article about anal! Kasandra Brabaw drives it home once again for Refinery29.

^{1 Nov 2018}

Refinery29 – “Fire & Ice: A How-To Guide To Temperature Sex Play”

I’m quoted in this article on temperature play by Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29.

^{25 Oct 2018}

Refinery29 – “6 Things To Know Before You Try Anal Sex”

I had a whole lot of fun talking about the ins and outs of anal with Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29.

^{7 Sept 2018}

VICE – This Is Why Some People Are Turned on By Feet

I was interviewed and quoted by Grant Stoddard in this cleverly written article about the psychosexology of foot fetishists for Vice’s Tonic.

^{6 Sept 2018}

CNN – Do men really exaggerate their number of sexual partners?

I gave input along with other sex therapists and experts in Ian Kerner’s CNN article on whether one’s number of sexual partners matters, and why there tend to be inaccurate reporting among genders.

^{30 Aug 2018}

Refinery29 – “FYI: Your First College Hookup Doesn’t Have To ‘Count'”

I was quoted by Kasandra Brabaw for Refinery29 in an article on hook ups that’s good and good for you.

^{24 Jul 2018}

VICE – People Are Injecting Their Scrotums With Saline to Get Huge Balls

I was quoted by Grant Stoddard for Vice’s Tonic in what is likely the most eloquently written and entertaining article on scrotal inflation ever published.

^{30 May 2024}

COSMOPOLITAN – Confused About Infatuation vs. Love?

“Both love and infatuation can feel similar in terms of the neurochemicals they create, such as oxytocin, dopamine, and adrenaline,” says Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

^{25 Jun 2018}

them. – On How Trans Folks’ Sexual Attractions Sometimes also Transition

My esteemed colleague, sex researcher Dr. Zhana Vrangalova, quoted me in her article for them. on the ways sexuality can transition during gender transition/expansion.

^{8 May 2018}

Deviate Podcast – BDSM 101

I was interviewed at length by Rolf Potts for his Deviate podcast, in which we cover a range of BDSM 101 topics, interspersed with a healthy dose of personal disclosure on my part. It’s an hour plus so get comfy.

^{11 Apr 2018}

Elite Daily – The Science of Birthday Sex

I talked about the science of birthday sex in this article Jamie Kravitz wrote for Elite Daily, and revealed whether or not it lives up to the hype.

^{10 Apr 2018}

Autostraddle – The Joys and Pitfalls of Noisy Sex

I was quoted in an article Carolyn Yates wrote for Autostraddle about the joys and pitfalls of noisy sex and how to embrace and/or muffle it.

^{10 Apr 2018}

Newsweek – Devastating Legislation for Sex Workers

I was interviewed and quoted by Kristin Hugo for Newsweek on the devastation that legislation targeting sex workers is already causing.

^{23 Jan 2018}

Marie Claire France – La fessée thérapie ou le lâcher-prise option BDSM

I am quoted by Sara Jore-Pivet for French Marie Claire on the pleasure of pain in an article about spanking “La fessée thérapie ou le lâcher-prise option BDSM.

^{21 Dec 2017}

Marriage.com – Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?

I talk about the 3 C’s—Communication Creativity and Consent—in Marriage.com‘s “Experts Reveal: How to Deal with Incompatible Sex Drives?”

^{14 Sept 2017}

New York Daily News – Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn

My two cents on the Cruz porn scandal are quoted in Kate Feldman’s “Ted Cruz and the Mainstream Appeal of Incest Porn” for the New York Daily News.

^{4 Aug 2017}

Marie Claire – 7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy

My perspective on the benefits of spanking in Gigi Engle’s “7 Things You Didn’t Know about Spanking Therapy” for Marie Claire.

^{19 Jul 2017}

Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology, or societal oppression?

I respond to “Ask a Sexologist: Are women ‘less promiscuous’ than men because of biology or societal oppression?” in Slutever’s Sex + Love Advice column.

^{27 Jun 2017}

A Conversation with Ignite Intimacy

A conversation with Ignite Intimacy podcast’s Ms. LAH about how KD came to be an alternative sexuality affirmative therapist and creating shame-free spaces for kink poly trans and LGBQ-identified people.

^{13 Jun 2017}

What Inspired Kink Doctor? An Interview with Psychology Today.

My interview with Dr. Michael Aaron the author of Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations on what inspired the creation of Kink Doctor.

^{12 Apr 2017}

Rethinking Monogamy Today for CNN

“[Consensual non-monogamy] can actually remove the fear inherent in some monogamous relationships related to the potential for abandonment – for example, if their partner were to meet someone else.”

^{10 Feb 2017}

Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM

The independent research team I work with debunks misconceptions about BDSM and presents findings in “Beyond 50 Shades Darker: Debunking Popular Myths about BDSM” for Psychology Today’s Standard Deviations.

^{23 Oct 2016}

How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids

I comment on parenting while kinky in Sophie Saint Thomas’s “How to Stay Kinky After You Have Kids” for VICE Magazine.

^{27 Sept 2016}

Bonding & Kink on RTÉ2fm Radio

My conversation with Irish RTÉ2fm Radio’s Chris and Ciara on equal opportunity fluid bonding and other ways that kink can be bonding.

^{28 Aug 2016}

Meet the Kinky Couples Who Get Turned on by Tattooing Each Other

My perspective on tattooing in a kinky context is quoted in Sophie Saint Thomas’ VICE Magazine article.

^{29 Jun 2016}

E! News – Conversation with EJ Johnson

E! News reports on my conversation with EJ Johnson about his feelings surrounding his gender identity.

^{29 Jun 2016}

Therapy Session with EJ Johnson on EJNYC

The therapy session that EJ Johnson had with me on his reality TV show EJNYC was called a must-see moment on E! News.

^{15 May 2016}

Nylon: 10 Things We Learned at an Alt Sex Conference

Sophie Saint Thomas attended and wrote about the 1st annual AltSex NYC Conference for Nylon.

^{28 Apr 2016}

3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex

My talk on the intersection of kink and poly at the 1st annual AltSex NYC Conference is referenced in Debra Soh’s New York Magazine article “3 Insights about Kinky and Nonmonogamous Sex”.

^{16 Mar 2016}

Sex with Timaree Podcast – What are Alternative Sexualities?

My AltSex NYC Conference co-organizer Dr. Michael Aaron and I spoke with Dr. Timaree Schmidt about what we mean when we talk about “alternative sexualities.

^{15 Apr 2015}

The Kink Doctor Is In

GO Magazine proclaims “The Kink Doctor Is In”.

^{9 Feb 2015}

Never tried BDSM? Go on, it’s good for you.

Brad Sagarin references the mechanisms that reinforce consent as outlined in my paper on consent versus coercion in his article for The Guardian “Never tried BDSM? Go on it’s good for you”.

DR. DULCINEA ALEX PITAGORA

Dr. Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

Quotes & Interviews

PopSugar – It’s a “Brat Summer,” but What Does That Mean in the Kink World?

COSMOPOLITAN – What Is a Queerplatonic Relationship?

Mic – Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

Mary & George’ Lets Us Reimagine All History as Queer History

The VICE Guide to Kink

A Guide to Cuckolding With The Kink Doctor!

How to Have a Good Time at a Sex Party, According to People Who Go to a Lot of Them

Today – I’m gay and I eat at Chick-fil-A. Should I feel ashamed?

Cashmere Magazine – Can You Develop A Kink?

Women’s Health – What Does ‘Queer’ Mean?

Mina AF – Let’s Talk About Sex Baby

Hustler Magazine – [Kink:] Don’t Knock It Till You Try It

Women’s Health – What Does It Mean To Be Greyromantic?

CNN Health – Can A Monogamous Couple Happily Become Nonmonogamous?

Why People Have Sexual Fantasies About Things They Don’t Want To Do in Real Life

Insider – This is [Sage Agee’s] first holiday out as polyamorous.

Cosmopolitan: How Not to Be the Most Awkward Person at a Sex Party

Armie Hammer Allegations an Example of What Distinguishes BDSM from Sexual Violence

Mic – How Pleasure became Political

Self – 6 Questions to Ask Yourself If You’re Considering an Open Relationship

BuzzFeed – 16 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Shy, Embarrassed, Or Worried To Ask About

BuzzFeed – 15 Real-Life Sex And Intimacy Questions You’re Too Embarrassed To Ask About

Self – 14 Relationship Red Flags You Should Never Ignore, According to Therapists

Hustler Magazine – Sex Requests: The Weird, the Nasty… the Awesome!

Mashable – How to Travel with Sex Toys

Men’s Health – 20 Questions With Open Relationships Sex Therapist Dulcinea Alex Pitagora

Volonté, A Video Podcast by LELO – The World of BDSM

SheKnows – Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Ethical Non-Monogamy

Men’s Health – What You Do After Sex Will Help You Have Way More of It

Mic – Why Does Fitness Need to Be This Gendered?

O.School – Cuckolding: What It Is And Why Some People Love It

Mic – How Will Our Pandemic Trauma Translate into Emotional Growth?

Practicing Polyamory Podcast – How to Establish Your Identity

New York Post – Kourtney Kardashian and Travis Barker’s Finger-Sucking, Explained

Mic – Both& Is Filling the Fashion Void with Its Gender Affirming Clothes

Mic – TikTok Is Making Consent Sexy Again

Mic – Re-entry Anxiety is Real. Here’s How to Cope

Daily Beast – The New COVID Truther Freakout Is the Most Absurd Yet

Mic – More Young People Identify as LGBTQ+ Than Ever Before

GQ – The A-to-Z Guide to Open Relationship Terminology

Big Think – Are There Therapeutic and Relational Benefits to Being Submissive?

Mic – On Unlearning Gender Norms: Will I Ever Stop Acting Like a Girl?

What Is Small Penis Humiliation, And Can It Help Men Struggling With Size Insecurity?

CNN Health – What’s Your Gender? I Prefer Not to Say

BuzzFeed – Six Trans People Talk About Their Pandemic Bodies

Mic – How to Role-play without Feeling Super Awkward

Bridgerton’ Review: Is It Wrong To Never Fantasize About Your Partner While Masturbating?

Refinery29 – Clit Pumps Are Sexy, Useful, & Very Underrated

Double Blind – Why We All Need to Be Spanked and Trip Right Now

What ‘Happiest Season’ Gets Right & Wrong About Dating Someone Who Isn’t Out

Mic – How My Weight Affirms My Gender Identity

A Shocking Number of Trans Americans are Forced to Get Hormones on the “Grey Market”

Mic – I Grew Up Associating Queer Sex with Shame, Here’s How I’m Unlearning It

COSMOPOLITAN – Slow Sex Is The Best Sex

Refinery29 – The Icy Tricks That Can Transform Summer Sex

The Erotic Philosopher Podcast – How to Get Better at Talking about Pleasure

Mic – Coronavirus and Denial: Why Some People Just Can’t Face Reality

Mic – How Quarantine Liberated Me from the Gender Binary

VICE – Apocalypse Porn Shows Why People Are Horny for the End of the World

What Happens to Your Body When You Don’t Have Sex for a Long Time

How to Deal With Quarantining Away From Your Partner During Coronavirus

Mic – Why Social Distancing Is Making Me Horny

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